Talking to Kids: 100 Questions to Start Conversations

Some people are just naturals when it comes to talking to children.  They can sit down with virtually any child and engage them in conversation without even thinking about it.  These people are born to be in children’s ministry because there is no better way to build a relationship with a child than to talk to them.  I happen to be blessed by God to be one of those people who actually loves talking to kids (many times more so than talking to adults).  I enjoy engaging them, relating to them, chatting with them and learning from them.

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There are, however, a lot of people who love kids but just find sitting across the table from them and trying to have a conversation about as daunting and foreign as sitting across the table from an alien life form trying to learn about their planet.  It’s not that they don’t like kids, just have trouble deciding where to start.   In order to help, I have compiled a list of 100 questions and conversation starters to get kids talking.  Much like any conversation, the key is to just get it started then it tends to take on a life of its own.  There are literally thousands upon thousands of things you can talk to a child about.  The more you get to know them and invest in their lives the deeper and more meaningful your conversations will become.  In the meantime, hopefully this list will help give you some ideas on where to start when it comes to talking to kids.

100 Questions to Get Kids Talking

Questions About The Previous Week

  • What did you do this week?
  • What was something fun you did this week?
  • What was something you had to do this week that you didn’t care for?
  • Did you see anyone this week that you haven’t seen for a while?
  • Did you go visit anyone this week?
  • Did anyone come to visit your house this week?
  • Do you have any exciting stories to tell from the past week?

Questions About Their Family

  • How many brothers and sisters do you have?
  • Are your brothers and sisters older or younger?
  • What are their names?
  • How do you like being a big/litter sister/brother?
  • What are your parents’ names?
  • Where does your Dad work / what does your dad do for a job?
  • Where does your Mom work / what does your dad do for a job?
  • What is your favorite thing to do as a family?
  • Do you have any pets?
  • What kind of pets?
  • What are the names of your pets?

Questions About Them

  • How old are you?
  • When is/was your birthday?
  • What did you do for last birthday?
  • If you could have the perfect birthday party, what would it be?
  • What is your favorite food?
  • What is one thing that your Mom/Dad makes for dinner that you just can’t stand?
  • What is your favorite kind of ice cream?
  • What is your favorite kind of candy?
  • What is your favorite color?
  • What is your favorite zoo animal?
  • What is your favorite time of the year?
  • Is your bedroom decorated?  How is it decorated?
  • Do you have to share your bedroom with anyone?
  • If you could receive one thing in the whole world as a present right now, what would it be?
  • What do you want to be when you get older?  Why?
  • What is the silliest thing you have ever said or done?
  • What do you like to spend your allowance on?
  • What is one thing you don’t know how to do that you wish you did?

Questions About School

  • Where do you go to school?
  • What grade are you in?
  • Do you like the grade you are in more or less than last year?
  • Do you ride the bus to school?
  • What is your teacher’s name?
  • What is your favorite thing to study at school?
  • What are you studying in school right now in math? …language arts? ..science? ..etc?
  • What is your least favorite thing to study?
  • Do you have lots of homework to do each night?
  • Who is your best friend?
  • What do you like to play at recess?
  • Do you ever stay home from school sick?
  • When was the last time you stayed home?

Questions About Their Activities

  • What do you like to do for fun?
  • Do you play sports? Which ones?
  • What is your favorite position to play?
  • Does your team have a name?
  • What is your favorite thing to do on the weekend?
  • Do you prefer to spend your time inside or outside?
  • Do you like to draw?  What kinds of things do you draw?
  • What do you do when you get home from school?
  • Do you like to do puzzles?  What about word puzzles?  …number puzzles?
  • Does your family go on a vacation each year?
  • Where does your family go on vacation?
  • Where is the most exciting place you have been in the past year?
  • Do you have a bike?  What does it look like?

Questions About Cultural Things

  • What is your favorite TV show?
  • Why do you like it?
  • What is your favorite movie ever?
  • What was the last movie you saw?
  • Did you like it or not, and why?
  • What is the best toy that you have?
  • Do you like to read?
  • What is your favorite book?
  • What is your favorite computer game?
  • Do you like to play video games?
  • What kind of video game system do you have?
  • What is your favorite game to ply on the Wii, Xbox, etc?
  • Do you have a portable game system like a PSP or DS?  Which one?
  • Do you like to go out to eat?
  • What is your favorite place to eat?
  • Who has the best kids’ meal toys right now?
  • What kind of music do you like?
  • What is your favorite song?
  • Do you like to dance?
  • Do you know how to play any instruments?  Which one(s)?

Questions About Spiritual Things

  • Do you like to read your Bible?
  • Do you have a favorite Bible verse?
  • What is the funniest name in the Bible?
  • Do you pray to God every day?
  • What types of things do you pray for?
  • Who brings you to church (mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, etc.)?
  • Do you like coming to church?
  • When you think of God, how do you picture him?
  • Why do you think Jesus decided to come and die for our sins?
  • Do you talk to your Mom and Dad about Jesus and the Bible?
  • Do you tell other people about Jesus?
  • Who have you told about Jesus recently?

Questions About Children’s Ministry

  • What is your favorite thing that we do here each week?
  • What is your least favorite thing that we do here each week?
  • What have we done in the past that you would like to see again?
  • Do you like coming to [insert name of your children’s ministry here]?  Why or why not?
  • If you ran children’s church, what would you do different?
  • Do you like the music we play in children’s church?


Comments

  1. Florence says

    Hello there, Lots of inquisitve questions are being advised ! I don’t think many kids would appreciate being asked about their personal tastes or life as a starter. Intimacy and respect are valuable aspects of a conversation, even with children. Lots of the suggested questions are also answerable with a short “yes” or “no”, which makes a poor beginning of a conversation ! If I had to start some conversation, I would rather go for puzzles, riddles or puns, with a pen and paper for 10-12 years old, instead of this police-station approach of a youth.

  2. Lolina Porter says

    This site really helps to comunnicate with my kids. Sometimes I lose words and don’ t know what to do. I really think I am closer to my kids than before and the special thing about this site is they talk about religion so for me as a christian I get more of my kids attention to church than games.

  3. Ruth says

    Thanks so much for the information it will go along way in helping me as i communicate to kids in church school or else where. i have always been afraid to say the wrong thing to a child i love church school.
    kids will always love you and listen to you with innocent mind.
    its our duty to love them back and be good teachers

  4. says

    Great list! And some very creative questions which kids will love to answer.
    One comment I would add is to be sensitive when asking questions that are more specific than general. For example, questions about the child’s parents, or siblings who are not in the club/class. If a chlild tells mum and dad what you have been asking, they may feel it is an intrusion on their privacy.
    “Where does your Dad work / what does your dad do for a job?” may be a sensitive issue for many families, especially if there is unemployment.
    “Does your family go on a vacation each year?” may be embarassing for the child or parents if others are going away and they will have stay at home vacations, because of financial needs in the home.
    I guess I am saying that discretion and sensitivity are needed with some areas.
    if all else failsd, and you gum up, unable to think of even one thing to say or ask – give the kid a big warm smile and something like: “I am glad you came today. It’s great to see you [Name of kid]. They’ll love you for that!

  5. says

    I’ve found it useful to ask my group what they did during the week and is there anyone they would like us to pray for. Often they will talk about issues that are concerning them, e.g. visiting grandmother who is ill, and then we start the lesson with a prayer and can pray for grandmother, school friend who is sick, new teacher at school etc. It’s a good way to reinforce that we can always talk to God when we are worried about something.

  6. says

    Many times adults don’t have to say much to have a conversation with children. Once the conversation gets started, the children take off with it and talk on and on. They want someone to listen to them and be interested in them.

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