Times have changed. Today’s kids live will inherit a world where gay marriage is accepted and affirmed, even by the President of the United States. Christians who maintain the biblical witness against this practice will be labeled “bigots.”
More Suggested Reading:
- The ERLC of the Southern Baptist Convention has many helpful articles detailing what this means for churches.
- How will same-sex marriage impact children’s ministry? by Jared Kennedy
- A Children’s Pastor’s response to the POTUS ruling on gay marriage by Brian Dollar
- Podcast on the Same-Sex Marriage Debate by Phil Vischer
- Explaining Same-Sex Marriage to Children by Russell Moore
- Children’s Desiring God calls this a “Crucial Teaching Moment”
So, what are the basics that every kid needs to know when they encounter these topics? What can we teach to prepare children to respond with truth and grace to world gone crazy?
The following is just a starting point. I’d love to hear your response in the comment section below, especially if you have started talking with your children about these topics. We’ve even posted a roundtable discussion about this issue.
These talking points should be customized depending on the age of your kids and their specific questions.
“Marriage is God’s idea”
Before there was any human government or even churches. God invented marriage between Adam & Eve. It was supposed to be one man and one woman, promising to love and care for one another in a special way for all their lives. He said it was a pattern for all their children to copy. Marriage was a good gift from our Maker. It helps us to have strong families and live happy lives. When men & women follow God’s plan, it shows a little of God’s own faithfulness and love. The Bible event talks about human marriage to explain the way Jesus loves his church. At the core this is a theological issue
“Some people say ‘No’ to God’s ideas”
When humans began to disobey God, marriage become much harder. Since we are all sinners, it becomes very hard to put others first and get along in marriage. There are many ways people have gone against God’s plan. The Bible specifically talks about divorce, adultery, and homosexuality. There do not fit with God’s plan and are called sin by different passages in the Bible. Many people think they have freedom to change God’s design in whatever way they want.
“It is not mean to disagree.”
We must love all people, but not hide God’s truth. There are many smart and nice people who don’t agree with what the Bible teaches. To speak up for what you know is not wrong, especially when done with attitude of respect. Christians should find way to be friends with all types of people, even when we disagree with something as important as marriage.
“Love means telling the truth”
Some Christians are shy to call same-sex marriage sinful. They think love and politeness prevents them from judging the choices that others make. It would not be love to hide the wisdom of God from people, especially when their choices will lead to sadness in their own lives.
“God can forgive & fix what sin breaks”
The Gospel is God’s power to both forgive and change sinners. Jesus commands all people to, “Repent and believe in the gospel.” (Mark 1:15). Christ has the authority because he lived without sin and died in our place. The promise is for a total restoration of any sinner back to God. “And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. (1 Corinthians 6:11 ESV)
“Sometimes the Government makes mistakes”
God has said to respect the government and even pray for leaders to have wisdom. Even so, any human government can make mistakes and choose to ignore God. We must continue to speak the truth and do what we can to love all people, even when the government is wrong.
This is just a starting point for this conversation and it’s an issue that won’t go away in this generation. Please leave a comment below to share your ideas or read our round table conversation on how it will affect children’s ministry.
I appreciate the dialogue earlier, but if we can’t agree that God has spoken clearly about marriage in Genesis 2:24… then we’re probably not going to agree on much else on the topic.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
(Genesis 2:24 ESV)
That’s the verse that both Jesus & Paul quote when teaching on the issue. Matt. 19:5; Mark 10:7; 1 Cor. 6:16; Eph. 5:31
I am personally bound by the Word of God — even if the rest of the world (and many other Christians) think it’s foolish.