Thanksgiving: It’s an ugly day for many kids

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Many children will never experience a "picture perfect" Thanksgiving holiday

With Thanksgiving just around the corner, children’s ministry leaders and teachers are thinking about how to teach the children under their care about God’s view of giving thanks.

At first blush, it seems simple. For example, we might ask the children to think about what they are thankful for. Cool toys, a nice house, the latest award for sports or the arts, parents, brothers and sisters, the dog, the cat, even the pet lizard that seems to keep ending up on the kitchen counter while Mom and Dad are cooking dinner….

So, Thanksgiving in the minds of many children becomes a focus on giving thanks for what they have: possessions, relationships, accomplishments, and other kinds of blessings.

And why shouldn’t it? It is typically what is modeled for them. To be sure, they should be thankful. And so should we as adults and leaders. But is that the final word on thanksgiving?

Thanksgiving and Ministering to Children Who Suffer

What about those families whose parents and/or children are suffering? Marginalized? Hurting to such a degree they are rocked to their core? How do we teach thanksgiving to them? Who can possibly understand the emotional space they are in?

I am reminded of the Apostle Paul’s words concerning contentment and thanksgiving in Philippians 4: 1-14. Whether he had plenty or was in need, he had learned to be content. Indeed, in verse six he writes, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”

Even in the hard times we can be thankful. To the church of Corinth he writes, “But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed” (2 Cor 4:7-9).

Children who suffer do not need trite assurances in the form of an offhand comment. They need comfort exemplified by faith lived out daily with them. They need to be heard, understood, and loved. Although we cannot always provide immediate resolutions to their needs, we can offer the ministry of presence which expresses thankfulness for who they are now and how God has sustained them to this point. This ministry of thankful presence looks forward to the hope that God has for them, regardless of their current circumstances.

Think about the children you influence. Are there any who require special consideration during this season of emphasis on thanksgiving? Pray about how you might facilitate a ministry of godly, attentive presence for them. Your actions will lend credibility to the words you prayerfully choose to share with them.

Need More Ideas? Many of our suggestions related to hurting kids on father’s day and mother’s day are relevant here. We’ve also posted a special prayer for suffering children around the world.