How Can I Know If My Child Is Really Saved?

For Christian parents, few concerns are more pressing than the salvation of their children. I’ve know many parents who struggle to know if their kids are saved. In this post I want to share my best advice for parents. Please feel free to leave a comment and share your thoughts.

How Can I Tell If A Child Is Saved?

The truth is simple to say but hard to accept. We can’t be 100% certain until we get to heaven. A person’s relationship with God is deeply private and too easy to fake. This is especially true for kids who want to earn their parents approval. But we can look for evidence of conversion in a child’s life.

The first and best evidence is the child’s statement of believe in Jesus. Has the child said they trust Christ for salvation and is seeking to follow Him. Once that is the case, here are some more things we should encourage and try to discern:

  • Does the child show a growing love for God?
  • Does the child demonstrate love and concern for others?
  • Does the child have a growing appreciation for God’s grace?
  • Is the child learning to pray and spend time alone with God?
  • Does the child have a sense of their own sinfulness?
  • Does the child demonstrate new spiritual desires?
  • Does the child continue in their faith over time?

For more great questions, check out this post from Justin Taylor’s blog listing questions to ask your child about their spiritual development.

This is not an exhaustive list, but it’s a starting point. My concern is always to encourage kids to take steps of faith toward God. Even if they seem very young, I urge them to trust Jesus Christ as much as they are able.

How Do You Know If A Child Is Saved?

The comment section below is open for you to share your thoughts. What things would you add to my list? What are some resources that  you have found helpful on this topic?


Comments

  1. BrianH says

    Tony, I often have parents ask me if I can talk to their kids because their kid(s) have “asked Jesus into their heart” and they want me to confirm that the decision that the child has made is legit. The parents are usually always skeptical and I understand why. After all, the concept of salvation is hard enough for them to comprehend much less their children. That to me is the issue. I believe that parents have years of FUD (fear, uncertainty and doubt) built up over their lives where many children simply do not and therefor have very little trouble believing the Gospel. It’s the same concept of children’s belief in Santa Clause, the Easter Bunny or the Tooth Fairy. Kids have little to hold them back from believing in things they cannot see. On a much grander scale – Kids have little to hold them back from believing in God, His Son Jesus and the message of the Gospel. They don’t have any reason to doubt the Gospel and that’s why I believe Jesus was so descriptive in Luke about how the kingdom of God is full of people who have child like faith. It’s so beautiful to see a child hear the Gospel and then be told how much God loves them. Thanks for allowing me to share.

  2. grisss says

    nice post Tony The word of God it is never to soon for are children thanks Tony we need to know if every thing about are childresn.

  3. says

    When my own children were young and wanted to be baptized, my husband and I were pretty “stand offish” about the whole thing. As odd as that may sound, it made our kids have to hunger and work to get our attention. This way we knew it was of the utmost importance to them. Of course for us it was a huge matter of prayer. We also told them, they had to come to us during the week and not on Sunday. This way we knew it was matter that consumed their thoughts. When my daughter was 8 she started leaving notes in the offering tray to get my husbands attention! Our other daughter went forward at church camp without even saying anything to us because she was so determined to follow Christ in Christian baptism.
    Now that they are adults, it is a joy to see their lives bearing fruit for the kingdom.

  4. says

    Tony,
    The best resource I have read and am using now is “Your Child’s Profession of Faith” by Dennis Gundersen (Grace & Truth Books). It is a brief, 57 page book that challenges parents not to affirm a child’s profession of faith quickly, easily, and without assessing their understanding of faith and the gospel over the period of their childhood. It is an instructive and informative read that parents and children’s ministry workers will find very helpful.
    Craig

  5. Sue Bishop says

    As a parent I get the fact that we want to know for sure that our kids are saved. The problem I see is that sometimes parents hold their kids back from being baptized or making a public profession of faith because they are afraid they’re not ready. Our faith grows and matures as do our physical bodies. If it doesn’t there is certainly a problem. Jesus said to have faith of a child, that to me is with total trust and abandon. When parents question or doubt their child’s sincerity, we project our adult (not necessarily mature) fears and misgivings onto the children. Instead we should celebrate their commitments at whatever age and seek to help them have a clear understanding at each stage they enter.

    If we, as parents, put the same effort that we do into preserving the belief in Santa Claus that we do into believing in Jesus, how would our children be living?

  6. says

    Great post Tony. I really appreciated your list and the link to Justin Taylor’s article as well. The only think I can think of that I might add is whether or not the child shows a hunger for God’s Word. As a child this can take all kinds of forms. I know that in some kids I can see not just a desire to hear the story but to understand how it fits into the bigger picture.

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