The 7 Most Important Things You Can Tell A Child

I find that it isn’t all that hard to talk to kids.  They like to talk if you can find some common ground and explore something that really interests them.

As children’s ministers, and as parents, though, there are things that they need to hear from us.  Words are powerful things, and the tongue has the power to build up and to tear apart both by its action and by its inaction.  In other words, silence can be just as damaging as a negative spoken word.  Here are seven important things that every child needs to hear:

1. God loves you.  No matter what a child is going through – no matter what circumstances they find themselves in, this statement will always be true.  God loves them, and they need to hear it.  Much more than hear it though, they need to understand it.  They need to know that God’s love is unconditional.  It doesn’t matter what they have done or what they haven’t done – God always has, does, and always will love them.  Impress that on their hearts and you have laid an unbreakable foundation.

2. Jesus died for you.  From a very young age, kids have to know that Jesus dies on the cross their sins – for their bad decisions.  What an amazing act of love.  They must understand that Jesus, that God, made the ultimate sacrifice for them.

3. You need Jesus. In order for kids to understand the magnitude of the sacrifice of Jesus, they must also understand their own sins and bad decisions, and that Jesus died specifically for their sins and because he loved them.  There is much dispute about teaching kids about sins.  If you’re interested in reading more, you can check out a series I did on Dad in the Middle called 5 Things Kids Must Know About Sin.

4. You are valuable to God. God created us in his own image, and although he does not need us, we are all valuable to him.  Our value was expressed in his willingness to send his Son to die on the cross for our sins.  In God’s eyes, there is no such thing as a mistake or a nobody.  God doesn’t just value people in general, He values you specifically.

5. There is a purpose for your life. Not only does God value each child, he has a plan for them.  God made each child with a purpose and a plan.  No life is wasted when it is lived in accordance with God’s plan.

6. I love you. God’s love is all-powerful and sustaining, but it is not enough.  When God created Adam and it was just him, God acknowledged that he needed something more, he needed relationships with other humans, so God created Eve and told them be fruitful and multiply.  Kids need know that God loves them, but they also need to know that you love them!

7. I’m glad you’re here. Every child needs to feel valued and wanted.  Let them know that their presence in your life means something to you.  Make sure that they understand that their mere existence brings you happiness and joy.

There you have it.  Seven things every kid needs to know and hear.  And, the best thing about these seven statements is that you can never say them enough!


  1. says

    This might be a case where we are confusing terms. Yes, God wants a relationship with us, but all Christian groups would say he is sufficent and perfectly happy in himself.

    Acts 17:24-25 ESV

    The God who made the world and everything in it, being Lord of heaven and earth, does not live in temples made by man, nor is he served by human hands, as though he needed anything, since he himself gives to all mankind life and breath and everything.

  2. Joel says

    Wayne and friends,
    Yes God does need us! God created us to be in relationship with him and each other. (Remember Shema?) However, this may be more of the difference between a reformed theologian and a wesleyan theologian. I am Wesleyan, and I always tell my kids that God desires us and needs us to be in relationship with him. Thanks for stimulating me today. I’m so glad you are doing this.

  3. says


    Thanks so much for you comment. I am a little confused by your question re: clarification regarding the difference between 4 & 6?
    In #4, I am merely suggesting that kids should be told that they do have some reason for existence. That God made them for a reason. God does not need us, but he has chosen to love us and desires a relationship with us to such an extent that he came and died on the cross for us. For #6, I shift focus from things kids need to know about God to things they need to hear about us (as their leaders, parents, etc.). My point re: Adam and Eve was that God created us to be in relationships with one another, and he acknowledged that in formulating Eve – that humans need to be in relationship. Accordingly, kids need to understand that we love them. They should hear this and see it in our actions.

    Thanks again for your comment!

  4. Lauren Fouts says

    What you have started here is wonderful, although a little clarification between #4 (God does not need us) and #6 (God needs us) would be helpful. We will never get it all right, but understanding God’s limitless love and care for us as a model for our own relationships with God and those around us is liberating! Doubt, fear, and our own insecurity are extra baggage to our sinfulness. To communicate God’s love and forgiveness leading to our own transforming love for God and others is the heart of our ministry to and with children & youth.

  5. irene says

    Thank you so much, this is a good encouragement for us as teacher & to our sunday school student.

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